My whole life I have had men and women call me horrible degrading names just for losing my virginity or having consensual sex while single, for wearing revealing clothes or make up etc. I've had boyfriends yell at me for wearing bikinis or showing cleavage in a selfie even though sometimes I can't help it as I'm heavy chested. I've had boyfriends mothers find my instagram and say judgmental things to my boyfriend about it, who doesn't even think there's anything bad on my social media. I've been told to cover up around men, to not go out in revealing clothes or ill attract danger. I've had guy friends say girls were sluts and worthless and not worthy of love because they had slept with a large amount of people. I've had people who as soon as they find out you've had a life before meeting them and have had sexual experiences in the past, suddenly lose interest in you or think you are less worthy as a human being to be in a relationship with or think you are dirty. Ive had guys who I've started dating immediately ask me how many people have ive slept with. Should I really feel bad for having sex in the past? should I really feel bad about my clothing or selfies, or any of this? Do people even have a right to know these things? What do I say back to these people?