View the original post here. How do I leave my abusive relationship? I'm absolutely terrified of him and everytime I try, things just get worse. I've lost friends and family members because of his erratic and unpredictable behavior and because of how quickly he deems people "unforgivable". I'm sick of getting called terrible names and abused all the time. I really appreciate your help.

My boyfriend has abused me a few times over the last 2 and a half years we have been together. For the most part it has stopped- a couple times now When he steals my blanket from me and I try and get it back he’s yelled and called me names, and once elbowed me 3 times and called me a C U N T tonight when he did that he woke up and looked at me and I asked him not to hurt me and he slapped me, and then said something mean that I can’t even remember anymore. It didn't hurt, and it didn’t scare me because I had gotten used to this behaviour from before. I can’t help but wonder if this is him starting the abuse again or if I’m just overreacting. I don’t know what to do.

I’ve been talking to a guy for the past few weeks (maybe about a month and a bit? or more I don’t know) and recently he’s been hinting about going out/flirting with me and I’ve suddenly become afraid that he wants to be in a relationship with me. I get really anxious when thinking about a potential relationship with him—like, anxious to the point I don’t sleep, I feel sick, and I don’t eat. I really care about him (I don’t know if it’s romantic) but this really scares me. I don’t know if it’s just a lack of experience, fear of things going wrong, or something else, but it’s really bothering me. I do have trauma/mental illness which might be making things worse because I don’t want to burden him and I don’t understand why he would willingly want to be with someone with so many issues (this has led to me wondering if I’ve somehow tricked him? which doesn’t make sense). I’ve had friends in the past leave because I was honest about my trauma and they didn’t want to deal with that, so that’s making me nervous too (even though he knows about it and hasn’t left). I don’t want to say anything just in case I’ve got the wrong impression. I haven’t spoken to him for a few days because I was struggling mentally and I’ve been trying not to push him away, but I keep thinking about it and getting scared. there’s so many thoughts and it feels kinda suffocating. is there anything I can do? thank you so much!