I was dating this guy for a long time, and we broke up because I couldn't trust him and I was very unhappy. He had done a lot of bad things and even told me he didn't take me seriously for years. Constantly bombarded me with messages, pressured me into saying yes for things I didn't want, wouldn't give me any space, brought up personal things in arguements and even called me worthless, cheated on me etc etc.
I stopped speaking to him for a while but recently he contacted me and seemed sorry and he said it would be ok we were just friends so I thought it would be ok to talk seeing as he wanted it too. But it just starts again, jealousy, controlling, he gets upset because we are not together even though I thought he was fine with it? I have told him I cannot trust him and I don't want a relationship right now as I am dealing with a lot of different things, I lost someone very close to me (my parent), I don't talk to the other parent either, I am in my last year of university, I have also got a part time job for christmas and I am dealing with anxiety a lot around that.
However I can tell when he is upset or angry but instead of telling me he just acts so passive aggressive. He will get very blunt, he will ignore me or act like I have done something wrong? Which I don't know what I have done this time but I think it is because I will not get back with him.
Does anyone know what I can do about it? I don't want to upset him but I also do not want to feel like I have to get back with him, when it is something I keep trying to tell him