Hi there,

Thank you for coming to Asking Jude for advice. From your question I am a bit confused about your exact situation, but I will try to help as much as I can!

It seems to be that you are feeling insecure about being a bit uncomfortable in certain social situations. Please know that this feeling is completely normal, even in individuals who come off as super socially confident! We all feel self conscious and inadequate at some times, but it’s when this feeling becomes the norm that this can start to put a damper on your self esteem.

Good friends can make socializing so much easier. Just having someone in the same room as you that you feel comfortable with can make you feel so much more confident than being on your own. This may be why you ran home after dropping off your friend; because you didn’t feel that sense of security anymore. It is great to have good friends, but it’s also so important to be able to feel comfortable and secure on your own. This is not an easy adjustment to make if you feel uncomfortable being on your own; it takes a lot of practice. However, it’s totally doable and I have linked some resources that may help you in this area:

Feeling Lonely and Insecure: https://www.selfstairway.com/how-to-feel-better/

Building Self Esteem: https://www.healthline.com/health/how-to-stop-being-insecure

Conquering “Social Awkwardness”: https://au.reachout.com/articles/how-to-be-less-socially-awkward

Dealing with Shyness: https://www.helpguide.org/articles/relationships-communication/dealing-with-loneliness-and-shyness.htm

Being Happy Alone: https://www.healthline.com/health/how-to-be-happy-alone

The Importance of Being Alone: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/in-flux/201410/the-importance-being-alone

Why We Feel Uncomfortable Alone: https://www.huffpost.com/entry/how-to-be-alone-loneliness-coping-strategies-tips_n_5737600

Social Anxiety: https://www.nimh.nih.gov/health/publications/social-anxiety-disorder-more-than-just-shyness/index.shtml

Take care,

Jordan