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I can’t imagine how you must be feeling after having this revelation. You are not alone in how you feel. There are a few questions you should ask yourself: Why do you not feel love toward your parents? Was their trauma or abuse? If the answer is yes, here is some information that I think you need to read: https://kidshealth.org/en/teens/family-abuse.html. Though this information is directed toward children, it can help anyone at any age. Anyone, at any stage of life, can be harmed by the abuse from others. Here is some information on how to cope with toxic parents: https://health.clevelandclinic.org/toxic-parenting-traits/. If you are in danger, here is the number for North America's National Domestic Violence Hotline: 800-799-7233. There is also a website for online support: https://www.thehotline.org. Someone is available to help 24/7. I'm not sure where you're located, but if you are not located in North America, I recommend doing a quick Google search for an applicable hotline in your region.
If the answer is no, there is no trauma or abuse involved, and you want to rebuild a relationship with your parents, try spending time with one another. I know this is easier said than done—parents can sometimes be frustrating, and you may feel impatient. Keep in mind that they are people too, and they come with their own sets of flaws and imperfections. The following link has some helpful tips on how to reconnect with your parents: https://raisinghealthyteens.org/rht_blog/teenage-connection-the-11-best-ways-to-connect-with-your-teen/. Though this link is geared toward teens, there are a lot of great tips that can help people reconnect.
Doing an activity, such as cooking, eating, or listening to music, can help bring some togetherness. It is also a great way to reintroduce yourself to your parents and them to reintroduce themselves to you. Asking questions is a great way to get to know someone. Ask them about themselves, and in turn, tell them about yourself. Share what you are comfortable sharing with them. Building bonds with people can take time, even if it’s with your parents. Continuing to spend time with your parents can help you get to know them better. Here are more tips on how to build connections: https://www.lifeoptimizer.org/2010/02/11/building-relationships/. Be patient with yourself, and be patient with them.
Hang in there,