I've recently been in a new friendship that started a couple of months ago. Things were going great at the beginning and we used to talk a lot on the phone and hang out almost everyday. She used to tell me that she loves me but now I feel like things aren't what they used to be. I feel like I'm being clingy by always sending messages or calls first these days, so I started distancing myself to give her some space because sometimes I can judge from the tone of her voice like she doesn't feel like talking at the moment but it's been happening a lot lately. And she doesn't ask me if I'd want to hang out with her anymore. The weird thing is sometimes when I want to give her some space, she calls and asks me where I've been and when I make an effort to reach out first, it's like she doesn't feel like it or doesn't pay attention to what I'm saying. I'm almost at a point where I'm sick of this pushing and pulling situation where I don't want to care anymore but I've grown attached to her and miss all the wonderful conversations and outings we had. She's also my favorite and my kind of friend even though my other friends are much 'nicer' than her. I feel like it'll be awkward if I ask her things like "What happened between us?" or "Why aren't we as close as we used to?" Any suggestions?
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Thank you so much Drew and Angelica!