hi! my name is ren and i would describe myself to be someone who is extremely dependent. i broke up with my boyfriend of over a year a few months ago, and i thought i was fairing well until i realized that i really wasn't. i came to the conclusion that i don't like being single. my friends have told me that i should "learn to love myself before loving others" but i don't know how to do that. something i noticed was that even though my ex was someone that i couldn't really talk to (his communication was extrememly bad and i had to initiate everything), i would always go to him if i was feeling down or if i had any problems at school or with friends. now that i don't have that special connection wth someone anymore, i feel lonely--and it's not the same feeling as confiding in a close friend. i feel like it's extremely toxic of me to seek out boys and force myself to like them just so that i can be in a relationshiip again and feel that connection. i guess my thing now is that i like the idea of being in a relationship. im sorry if this was all over the place, but do you have any suggestions or advice on what to do in this situation?