I'm not really good with conversations but my boyfriend and I ask about each other's day and what we're doing. My time zone is central standard time and my boyfriend's time zone is greenwhich mean time, which means he is 6 hours ahead of me since he lives in the UK. We do make time for each other by texting on different days of the week. I do talk to him about wanting to video chat or do phone calls with him on whatever day to see when he's not busy but sometimes we never get a chance to video chat or do phone calls because on those days we plan since him or I might be busy doing other things. What other things can I talk about with my boyfriend? Since my time zone is different from my boyfriend's, what time of day is it best to do video chat or calling with my boyfriend?
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Hi friend,
Thank you for coming to Asking Jude for advice! If you notice that you and your boyfriend are running out of things to talk about, try checking out the links below with questions you can ask each other:
https://www.lifehack.org/articles/communication/45-questions-to-ask-to-get-to-know-someone.html
https://www.bustle.com/p/50-questions-to-ask-your-partner-when-youre-bored-out-of-your-mind-22627324
https://bysophialee.com/romantic-questions-to-ask-your-boyfriend/
You two could even start watching a new television series together, which could be something new for you both to talk about!
Although I’m not familiar with the schedules of you and your boyfriend, I would recommend video-chatting or calling him during the evening (his time). For instance, 9:00pm GMT would perhaps be a less busy time for the two of you to talk about each other’s day. Since this would occur at 3:00pm CST, you would hopefully not be too busy around this time either. You could even change it to 11:00 GMT if he is okay with staying up a bit later. Here is a great link with tips on how to work with time differences in a relationship: https://www.modernlovelongdistance.com/different-time-zones-long-distance-relationship/
The link above mentions that you and your boyfriend could send each other videos or pictures on days you cannot video-chat or call. I highly recommend trying this so that the two of you can still feel connected on busy days. Another way you both can stay connected on busy days is to call each other during brief moments of free time (e.g. when you are on your lunch break and he is on his way home).
I know long-distance relationships can be very difficult to work with, especially because of the time difference. It may take a couple of tries to find a schedule that works with his, so try not to feel too discouraged. So long as the both of you are willing to make time for each other, your relationship can prosper.
Sending love and support,
Helen