I have a boyfriend, he's from the UK, and we've met through online gaming a couple of months ago and we have been dating for a few weeks. When we had a crush on each other, we flirted a lot and we still do. Also, we talk on Snapchat every week. I love talking to him because he's sweet and supportive. Everytime I talk to him, he makes my heart melt and I start blushing. When I played duos with him in the game I met him on, there was a toxic player who was rude to me in the game and he defended me. I am a shy person and I am awkward at flirting. I have talked to him about doing video chats and phone calls and he said he was down with that idea. How do I flirt with my boyfriend even tho I am awkward? Also, what are some tips on how to make a long distance relationship work?
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Hi love,
Thank you for coming to Asking Jude for advice. Congratulations on your new relationship! Based on your message, it seems like he makes you very happy, which is great to hear! It can sometimes feel a little strange to flirt with your partner, especially if you have only been dating for a few weeks. Here are some ways you can flirt with your boyfriend and maintain your long-distance relationship:
1. Offer him sincere compliments. This is a simple yet effective way to flirt with your boyfriend because it can help him feel good about himself. For instance, you mentioned that he makes you blush because of how sweet and supportive he is. This could be something worth mentioning to him! You could say something along the lines of, “I love how sweet and supportive you are. I’m really happy to be with someone like you.”
2. Have virtual dates. Despite the distance between the two of you, there are plenty of ways to enjoy time together. For instance, you two could watch your favorite show on Netflix together or explore a new movie (https://www.netflixparty.com/). Or, since you two like gaming, you could look for a two-player game. You could even have dinner together through Zoom, FaceTime, or Skype. Here are some more virtual date ideas: https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.glamour.com/story/virtual-dates-you-can-go-on-in-quarantine/amp
3. Send him a love letter (or romantic text). Not only can this letter (or text) help you express how much you appreciate him, but it may also help remind him of the special role he plays in your life.
4. Make him a care package. A wholesome way to express how much you care about him is through gift-giving. In this care package, you could fill the basket with his favorite snacks (more care package item ideas here: https://longdistancethings.com/care-package-for-boyfriend/).
5. Establish boundaries with one another. Boundaries are important to have in any kind of relationship, and establishing them early on in the relationship may prevent confusion in the future. Tips on how to establish boundaries in your relationship can be found here: https://www.breakthecycle.org/blog/setting-boundaries-relationship
6. Ensure open and honest communicate with each other, even when things get difficult. Chances are, the two of you will encounter some disagreements during the course of your relationship. This is completely normal, so I encourage the two of you to be prepared when those moments arrive. Here is an article with how the two of you can handle these disagreements: https://www.joinonelove.org/learn/handling_conflict/
All things considered, I encourage you to be yourself around him. I know that may sound cliche, but him being in a relationship with you suggests that he already likes you for who you are. Thus, try your best to prevent feeling awkward or shy deter you from expressing your feelings to him. Remember: open communication is key!
Here is one last link with advice on helping maintain long-distance relationships: https://getlasting.com/long-distance-relationships
Wishing you the best in your relationship,
Helen
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