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Now I'm really upset. What should I do?
I started writing while I was in high school and one of the first things I would write about was television and movies. At my age, I would try to read just about anything I could get my hands on regarding television and movies. I recall that when someone would write about shocking material in a television show or in a movie, that specific material was usually judged to be o.k. So many years later, with all of the new technology, I think a line has been passed and that the impact has been so greatly negative that people of good will have to get together to change the situation for the better. I don't know if anonymous was specific about what he or she saw on the internet, but he or she was shook up to the point that he or she came to Asking Jude. May anonymous find some help...
In this time, where all forms of content are readily available on the Internet, it has become increasingly easy to see something disturbing or unpleasant that we would not have usually sought out ourselves. While many social media websites have a safe filter option that you can choose, which can sort and hide disturbing content, there are still several ways you can get unwanted access to it. It can be very tough to forget or unsee these moments when they do happen.
Honestly, the best way to move forward from this is to talk to someone about what you saw and how you’re feeling. What about that made you feel upset? Is there anything you can do or learn about the situation? Talk to your parents, friends, loved ones, a therapist, or even us here at Asking Jude. We are here to listen and support you through anything. If it’s something that does not pertain to you or you cannot do anything about the situation, then you can talk about it and move on.
A memory is formed in our brain when the brain cells grow and form a new connection. The more you think about a memory or the events surrounding that memory, the stronger connections you form that are harder to get rid of. If you don’t want to think about a particular event, then actively replace the thought with something else. Any time it pops into your mind, ignore it and start thinking about something else. Actively pushing out the negative thoughts will help move on from it. You can find more about that here:
Similarly, you could replace it with positive ideas. You’ve been through something distressing, and you deserve to calm down and relax. Practice self-care, do what makes you feel strong and happy. Here are some coping skills that you can try:
If you stumbled onto this by accident and regretted seeing it on the website, take some precautions for a safer and less distressing browsing session on the Internet. If you have antivirus software, they can often have a safe filter that helps you block out distressing sites. If not, you can download a filter yourself through either software or browser extensions. Only navigate trusted websites, take caution while on websites such as Reddit or Twitter as there can be a lot of insensitive content on there.
I’m sorry you saw what you did, and I hope this helped you feel a little less upset. Here are some resources that might help further:
Wishing you all the best,