I had an argument with my mom over how I feel uncomfortable around my stepdad and why I want to stay over my aunts house. Though my stepdad has never physically put his hands on me or my brother, it still doesn’t change that he is manipulative to my mom and is generally a awful person. (Racist, homophobic, pushes his religion on others, ete.)
Despite this, my mom is quick to defend him, going as far as to turning the argument at me, saying that I don’t do chores, have bad grades, have a “negative“ attitude and I am antisocial, even saying that maybe if I left my room and put more effort in things that I’ll be “happier”. She also says that ”she’s the parent” and I should only worry about my grades.
She also makes comments about clothing I buy, one time making a comment about a jacket I really like, saying it looks ”ugly” and things she picks out for me looks better. This is ignoring the fact that she hates the stuff she bought after I wear it for a while. I try and hint to her how hurtful saying those things are to me, but they either get ignored or she makes another comment.
I don’t know what to do. Worst, some of the things she says are true, so I’m just doubting myself now. Yeah, my grades aren’t the best and I tend to neglect some chores, but does that negate the problems I have? Worst part about this whole thing is she tried to act buddy buddy with me after, as if the argument never happened. I feel like I’m falling apart. Please help.