I started dating my bf over two years ago, and we have a very loving and continually improving relationship. However, when we started out my mental health was in a very bad place, and had been for a while. I had been struggling with really bad anxiety, depression, and mild self harm since I was quite young. He helped me learn how to love myself and improve my life. But when I was in that dark place in the beginning, his mom saw my self harm scars at some point or another and immediately jumped to the conclusion that I for some reason did it to make my bf feel bad or to manipulate him. It snowballed from there. His mom has never taken the time to get to know me, and makes me feel like a burden. We have to plan our dates around when he thinks his mom will be most likely to allow him (a college-aged man) to see me, which puts a bit of a strain on our relationship when seeing each other is made into such a chore for him. That is the main problem right now, and we both wish things could be easier. He tells me that this is just how she is, so is my only choice to accept that she will continue to maintain these attitudes, hope she eventually changes her mind about me, and have to deal with her making our relationship difficult?
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Logical question to ask regarding the boyfriend's mother: besides the mom's judgment of the girlfriend, are there other problems between mom and son. I note that there is no mention of a father...