Hi Jude! My friendships have been falling apart lately and I’m kinda feeling lonely and betrayed. I don’t know whether it’s something in me that’s driving them off or they just don’t deserve me. Some I cut them off for feeling like not fitting in and forcing the connection. Others just don’t put in much effort like they used to and I honestly can’t keep going without mutual effort. There is this one friend that was almost like a sister to me. We’ve been super close for many years but then it started to feel like the effort is one sided, I explained to her how that made me feel and she apologized and promised she’ll work on it, but nothing changed... I naturally hate chasing people but it was very painful for me to admit this. Now I feel like I can’t let anyone in anymore I’ve been hurt enough and its making me a very boring sad person that i don’t want to be.
Also, Do u believe in closures or know how to find them? Because I don’t. I get deeply attached in every friendship I make and that makes me think twice before I let anyone one in. I have this ex friend I keep having dreams of 5 years later even when I cut out all possible triggers!
Hey, anonymous00! With the situation regarding your with your friends and dealing with your parents, your life must be really complicated! The pandemic situation -- wherever it is you live -- makes it necessary that you be honest with each individual friend and let them know how you feel, even if they respond by saying they think it's best that both you and they go your separate ways. I think you'll good about doing the right thing. When the pandemic situation is resolved, you might check back with them to see how they are doing and then figure out whether you want to renew the connection. A peer counselor will get back to you, but, based on all of the experiences I've gone thru, that's my advice... Good luck to you...
Hi, @anonymous00 ! Kelly will be answering your submission shortly.