I have this amazing friend, we're touchy & always together and our friends tell us we should start dating but I just feel platonic love towards him. I had to tell him something I kept putting off for weeks cuz I was scared he'd get hurt and angry but he understood completely and it made me think. He has a GF. We are rly close and it feels right to be friends like this. Do you think it's possible? He used to have a small crush on me
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Hello!
Thank you for coming to Asking Jude with this great question! It is totally possible to have guy friends even when you are interested in guys. Friendship comes in many forms, and no matter what gender you are attracted to, you can be friends with any person. Guys and girls can have friendships without the relationship turning romantic, and I think your friends should not be pushing you to turn a good friendship into romance.
I loved hearing that you feel such a strong platonic connection with your guy friend, as honest, supportive friendships can sometimes be hard to come by. It’s nice that when you told him what was going on, he was understanding and kind. I can see how to some people, a friendship like yours sounds like a fantastical friend to lovers’ story, but this is your life, not theirs, and they should respect the fact that you only see him as a friend. I found some articles about men and women being friends:
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/articles/200109/can-men-and-women-be-friends
https://exploringyourmind.com/can-friendship-exist-man-woman/
You say that it feels right to be friends with him the way you are now. I would follow that feeling. Do not let your friends peer pressure you into a relationship that you do not really want to be in. Keep good friends like him in your life.
Hugs,
Max