In the same game that I play, they have where you can play solos or duos in different servers. The same server that I used to play in has too much drama with me, fake people that I cut out of my life, and drama between fake friends and two of my closest friends. I had to unfriend the fake friends I had in the game because they were creating lies and making me and three of my closest friends look like bad people. I met three of my closest friends on the same game and they do not like fake people nor let them treat them any kind of way. I struggled with being too nice and was afraid of going against certain people if I tried to do the right thing. Three of my closest friends told me that I should not care what people think, be strong, and do not let anyone treat me any kind of way. One of my closest friends warned me about how some of the people I used to be friends with will keep stuff hidden and lie about certain things. When my friends and I try to warn other people about what kind of person they are, then other people will not believe us so we stop trying to warn them. I saw the truth for myself and I cut the fake friends out of my life because I saw how they were being fake. I started to change my ways of being too nice and letting the wrong people in my life. My mental health became bad and I relapsed a month ago because of the drama. When I play in the other server, I feel more at peace and other players do not judge me but they are welcoming of me. If I return to the other server, it's going to be the same drama with the same people and they are going to accuse me of things that are not true but I know the truth.
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Apologies for the wait on this one! There was a bit of a communicative delay between my interns. I'll be sure this doesn't happen again!
Hi there,
Thanks for writing in to Asking Jude and sharing with us.
My best word of advice for your situation is to only give your energy to people who make you feel happy, accepted, and loved. You seem to have a great grasp of recognizing your feelings towards the group of fake friends on the old server, and can also recognize that they have had a negative effect on your mental health. Therefore, I completely agree that you should not join the other server again, and continue on with your better friends on the new server!
Friendships, especially online ones, can turn toxic pretty fast, so your feelings are completely valid. It’s way easier to be mean or spread lies behind a screen to and about someone they have never met in person. This certainly isn’t an excuse for their poor behavior, though. Keep your head up and try to ignore their words. The great thing about online relationships is that you can easily leave chats and block users, which is something you can’t do in real life. Take advantage of this and block or leave the server! Do whatever you need to do to protect your peace and help your mental health.
In terms of these new friends on the new server, try to not let your past experiences put a damper on this positivity in your life! Making new friends is one of the best feelings, and I hope they treat you the way you deserve. Be cautious as always when meeting people on the internet, but also have fun.
Here are a few resources that may help you:
https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.teenvogue.com/story/friends-partners-cyber-bully-study-bullying/amp
https://www.bustle.com/p/how-do-you-recover-from-cyberbullying-the-solution-lies-in-our-approach-to-victims-17040248
https://www.endcyberbullying.net/what-to-do-if-youre-a-victim
Take care,
Jordan
It's nice to hear from you again, @Stay Strong ! I hope you're doing well despite the circumstances. Our peer counsellor, Jordan, will get back to you soon. Like your username says, stay strong!