Hello and thank you in advance
I'm struggling to make friends because I don't talk a lot. I'm constantly telling myself i need to change.
But honestly, when others talk about mundane stuff I'm easily annoyed. They don't have to tell me obvious things, I think. I feel like all the noise is burrying the meaningful. Or when I'm bored by a conversation, even think it's a waste of time, how do I deal with that?
But when I'm with other introverts, it's hard to get a conversation going.
In conclusion I'm blaming the extroverts, blaming myself, blaming the introverts...
I'm already meeting a lot of people and it makes me sad that my efforts aren't working.
I've already wondered if I'm too fast to judge, yeah.
At vocational college/school I don't know what to say often enough. The person next to me is nice and not outgoing. I make my remarks at times but we're nowhere near friends because he also has closer friends sitting there. Do I tell him any unasked for story?
It's also harder when you have your established character in class. I talk a bit to a another group of people (walking home with them) but the people in this group also know each other so much better than I know them. Awkward to stand around when you're not in the loop with their topic too.
Then I have an internship/work (in public transport). I tried to pay attention to comments that throw me off today. These are examples from today, maybe not the best.... but: "We'll drive type A today. " (It doesn't make a difference which type we drive), "This is the oncoming line. " (while pointing at another line) and "This vehicle works nicely today. ".... These are all things that I don't think have anything to reply to so they all make me uncomfortably feel like "the quiet person" ....
That's what I can think of right now.
Thanks for reading and take care, JesseJesse