My 12 yo brother has been using the words gay and bisexual as insults towards his friends, now I know they are not insults but him and his friends use them in a very negative context. He claims they're all jokes and in good fun, but I'm not so sure. One of his friends is a full on homophobe, transphobe and in general not a good person, and he keeps using derogatory terms that I don't like and don't want my brother to imitate, but alas it is too late. I asked my brother to stop using those words but he does not listen and keeps playing them as jokes, today he kept repeating the word "trap", and as far as I know it is a transphobic term, I confronted him but he kept justifying its use and calling me dramatic. I am a closeted bisexual and super scared of coming out but it hurts me to hear my little brother and his friends insult the LGBTQ+ community in such a way, and specially by someone so young. I guess my question is: Am I making it a bigger deal than it is? How do I make him stop? or I guess, in the event I can' make him stop, how do I not let it upset me so much?