Hi Jude, I constantly think about my ex even though I’ve been in a relationship for 6 years and I love him very much. I feel attracted to males very easily because I love attention which I don’t always get in my relationship. I know he loves me dearly but he just stopped trying. I feel unappreciated although he does a lot for me I feel like it’s not enough. I don’t want to hurt his feelings and I also don’t want our relationship to end but I feel like if I stay, in the future I won’t be happy
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Hi there,
I’m sorry to hear that this happened to you. I don’t think you are crazy. There are people who fall in love before meeting someone in person—I am one of those people. It sounds like he was not the right guy for you. Loving someone who loves you is indeed important, but it is not the only reason to love someone. Emotions are tricky, and they aren’t a one-size-fits-all type of thing, but this website has some tips to help you figure out if you are in love:
https://www.lifehack.org/571528/how-you-know-when-youre-love.
Are you saying that you two had plans to meet, but you were too nervous, so it didn’t happen? If this is the case, it is completely normal to be nervous about meeting in-person for the first time. Don’t let anyone put conditions on your emotions. Here are some tips for making sure you are falling for the right kind of person:
https://www.helpguide.org/articles/relationships-communication/tips-for-finding-lasting-love.htm.
It is easy for some people to define their feelings, and for others, it isn’t. Sometimes, people are unsure of how they truly feel about someone until they meet in-person. It is okay to be unsure of how you feel, but it is important that you keep communication open. Communication, especially in an online-based relationship, is highly important. It is the basis of everything. Here are some tips on how to communicate in a relationship effectively:
https://www.loveisrespect.org/healthy-relationships/communicate-better/.
Hang in there,
Andrea