Hello, I was just wondering what your thoughts were on wishing an ex, Happy Birthday..? Is it weird. Is it okay if that's all I say? I dont know if it would freak him out or if he'll think that it was nice of me to think of him. Or should I just not say anything at all? We didn't end on bad terms btw.
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Thank you for reaching out to Asking Jude. It turns out that wondering whether or not you should wish an ex Happy Birthday is a common question. Depending on your relationship, a text like that could be off-putting or a nice gesture. If you were the one to end the relationship, then I would stray away from sending the message if you think it would bring up hurt for your ex. I would also stray away if you haven’t talked for a while. If he broke up with you, or it was mutual, it might be okay to send him a Happy Birthday message. Here is a website with some good examples on how to set up a birthday message to an ex:
I also want you to consider your intentions by sending a birthday message. I’m assuming it is because you want your ex to feel like they are being thought about on their birthday, which is nice. If you think you might be considering this message as a way to open up a conversation with your ex, maybe reconsider. You mention that you are unsure about how he will react to this message. I think this is important to note since a big part of whether you send it should depend on how he would feel to receive that sort of message. If there’s a chance that the message will bring him discomfort, hurt him in any way, or make him overthink on his birthday, I will avoid doing so. Here are some websites about sending a birthday message to an ex:
Good luck! I hope whatever you decide goes over well.